There are many things you need to think about and need to plan for to make yourself safer. The following questions will help you figure out what you need to do.
1. Think about having important phone numbers available for your children and for yourself. For example:
Police, sheltrs, friends,family,counselors.
2. Think about some friends or neighbors you could tell about the violence and ask them to call the police if they hear suspicious noises coming from your home.
3. Think about at least 4 places you can go if
you leave your home.
4. Think about leaving extra money, car keys, clothes, and copies of important papers with a close friend, relative or neighbor.
5. Think about keeping change for phone calls
with you at all times, opening a savings account,
rehearsing your escape route with a support person,
reviewing your safety plan periodically.
6. Your life and your safety are most important. Bringing your children with you is important. Everything else is secondary.
WARNING: Violence frequently gets worse when you try to leave OR show signs of independence, like taking a class, OR filing for divorce. Your partner may become desperate. Take special care.
After the relationship is over, you still need to take care.
7. Think about changing the locks, installing steel/metal doors, a security system, smoke detectors and an outside lighting system.
8. Think about telling a couple of neighbors that your partner no longer lives with you and ask them to call the police if s/he is observed near your home or children.
9. Think about telling people who take care of your children the names of those who have permission to pick them up. If you have a personal protection order that names your children, give their caretakers and their schools a copy of the order.
10. Think about telling someone at work about your situation and ask that person to screen your calls.
11. Think about not using the same stores, banks, or other businesses that you used when you lived with your battering partner.
12. Think about getting a personal protection order from the court. Keep a copy with you all the time, give one to the police, to your childrens caregivers, to your childrens schools, and to your own supervisor at work.
13. Think about someone you can call if you feel down and are thinking about returning to your battering partner. Think about attending workshops and support groups to gain support and strengthen your relationships with other people.
For your safetys sake, ask yourself these questions:
Many victims of domestic violence ask these questions about leaving.
Can I take my children with me when I leave?
Where do I go?
Your life and your safety are most important. Trying to bring your children with you is important. Everything else is secondary.
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